I was sitting in my car, outside my house today, when I received a Facebook message from my ex-husbands girlfriend. The message included a bunch of pictures of my kids spending time with her, their father, and brother Andre.
If you are new to the blog, I should tell you the following, for you to truly understand what I am about to say –I have three beautiful children and I live in Finland. My ex-husband Calvin, the father of my kids lives in The United States. Unfortunately because of the long distance between us, the week and week arrangement is not possible for us.
As of right now, our kids live with me most of the year and then spend the whole summer with him. I just sent my babies there in the beginning of June and they will be back in August.
So, as I was sitting in my car and opened the message from Veronica (Calvin’s girlfriend) and saw all those pictures of my kids and her, I just couldn’t move for a while. First of all, as a mother who haven’t seen their kids in a month and a half, I was super happy to see pictures and videos of them. As I kept sitting in my car and staring at the pictures over and over again, I couldn’t help but to notice how happy my kids looked being there with them.
It’s not that often that someone else loves your children like this, so seeing them being so happy together made me feel so much better even though I miss them tremendously. Sitting there looking at the pictures, had me thinking about all the step-parents in our family.
When I got married with Calvin, I had my son Daniel, who’s biological father had left us before he was born. My son was four years old when we got married and Calvin treated him like he was his own from the day one. Even after we got divorced, he continued raising and loving him like he was his own son.
Three years ago when I met my fiancee Arttu, he also loved and treated my son and my two little girls like they were his flesh and blood. I sat in the car and just wondered how life is truly amazing. My son, who’s biological father abandoned him, ended up with two step-fathers who love him more than most fathers will ever love their own son’s. And our little girls are now also blessed with loving parents here in Finland and there in USA.
My biological father also left us before I was born and I was also four years old when my Mother married my Step-father. I never call him my step-father though, he is Father to me! He raised me and loved me from the day he met me. I have never met my biological father and to be honest, I have never even wanted to. Why would I? I have the real father in my life who loves me.
And now my son, who was born without a father, has not one but TWO amazing fathers in his life –how amazing is that?!
I know what it’s like to be raised and loved by a step-parent, so I have a major respect for all the PARENTS that help me raise my children. Yes, I cut the “step” part off, because we all are parents together. Me and Arttu here in Finland and Calvin and Veronica in USA.
I just want to thank my father Jukka, my fiancee Arttu, my ex-husband Calvin and his girlfriend Veronica, who are giving me the great example of how to love and treat my (step)children Andre and Arttu’s daughter as well –You show me how to be genuine and love without boundaries and I will always be grateful of your love!
I know I have wrote about this before, but I was just so happy today when I received the pictures, that I couldn’t stop thinking about this and I wanted to share this story with you guys and say thank you, to all you step-parents who raise and love someone else’s children like they are your own! You have the biggest heart in the planet!
Here are some of the pictures I received today and that made me smile and cry from joy. The amount of love that I could see in these pictures is melting my heart!
We haven’t seen each other yet but I can’t wait till we all meet in person and spend time with our kids together as a big and loving family.
Remember, it takes a village and I think we all are truly showing our kids, how aduls should work together when there are kids involved in relationships.